1.29.2003

A note to the few of you who bother to read this on a regular basis;
I didn't start this only to amuse you with my razor wit.
I needed a soapbox in a safe zone, where I can occasionally rant and rave without being arrested or
being put upon by an angry mob or having someone set their dog on me.
Someplace where I can spill my guts or practice my particular brand of self pity,
without having to deal with face to face confrontations, which are not really my forte.
I can be real here, I can say what I can't say in other places, to other people.
You have to take the bad with the good, so if you're comfortable with getting to know
that side of me, fine, read on.
If you don't want to know me that well, that's ok, too.
Just don't read any further.



I've kept diaries most of my life. I will occasionally post excerpts from them here.
Some of what I've written is out of dispair.
Some of what I've written is all warm and fuzzy and funny.
What follows is not warm and fuzzy.
.
I don't expect any comment. I don't want any comment.
It's hard enough to put this out there for all the world to read.


I have always had a hard time with love. It has been an elusive, yet addictive quarry.
I have chased it.
I've run from it.
I've built walls to hold it in
and to keep it out.
It has bouyed me.
It has failed me.
It has caused me more grief then you could ever imagine,
yet, I have made it the center of my life.
It is the basis for what and who I am, without guilt or, sadly, reason at times.

The few excerpts that follow are not dated. When they were written really doesn't matter.
I share them for reasons that you don't need to know.



“She didn’t break my heart.
She folded it seven times
and threw it over her shoulder.”


“I would probably make
a good junkie.
I’m sure I could
boil up love and
mainline it.
Oh, dark alley of the heart,
just a push away
from the warm and
wonderful.
Will you be my gimme?”


Love and unloved.

1 .
Love

I have held you in the dark.
You let me play your body
like some yet uninvented
instrument of glass and
fine strings.

You have let me
hold you close to me,
my hands locked together
against the small of your back,
my face buried in your hair.

I have caressed
the curve of your side
as you lay next to me.

You once let me kiss
every inch of your body.

2.
Unloved


You have made me
dig out rocks
with my bare fingers.

You make me
question who and
what I am.

You have hurt my soul.

Our love is like
the last piece of wood
left to put on a fire.
The prospect of heat
is outweighed by the
spectre of dying embers
and old ashes.
When do we start
burning the furniture?

















I have come home to a house strangely devoid of fermented or distilled spirits...
hmmmm.....
what to do , what to do.....
there is that bottle of white wine left over from new years...
I mean, the reason it's still sitting on the dining room hearth is that it is white wine...
Oh, well... please don't tell anyone, but...
it's not that bad with an ice cube in it to kill the taste.

1.28.2003

just in case you aren't sure about how cold it has been,
check out these photos of the Delaware River in Trenton, NJ.
Brrrrrrrrrrrrr.....

"I am here, and you are my sofa..."
That is a line from the song Sofa No. 2 from the late Frank Zappa's album One Size Fits All.
Isn't that the most romantic thing you've ever heard?
What a great thing to say to someone that you love and loves you.
"I stand before you and you are the most comfortable thing in my life."
wow.

1.27.2003

1. can you live in a world that is smaller than you are?

2. can poets lie?

3. seek your gods in small places...

4. where do dreams go when they die?
is there a place like the mythical
elephant's burial ground
full of dead dreams?
piles of forgotten bright ideas,
shining like so many
bleached bones in the sun...
ivory passions, stacked one
upon the other,
promising wealth, but too heavy
to be borne by our mortal selves.
maybe dreams really don't die...
maybe the just run away,
like ignored and abused children.
maybe, one day, we'll see them
on the backs of milk cartons...
"Have you seen this dream?"

5. love is like water

6. knowledge kills wonder

7. in the days of vinyl records,
you would sometimes tape a nickel
to the top of the tone arm
to stop the needle from skipping
in the grooves...
maybe I should tape a nickel to
my back.


oh, yeah... remember, no good deed goes unpunished...

I couldn't have said it better myself...

1.24.2003

Well, here we go. The first of some of my short stories I would like to share with you. I hope you enjoy it.

My neighbor Jack.

Jack was cool, in his own way. Not cool as in hip, which he was not, though he had an ear for good jazz. He was cool because, well, he was just himself, which, for his time, was something. Jack was a product of the first quarter of the twentieth century, born in the early twenties, lived through the depression, served in World War Two, made a family in the fifties.
I really started to know him in the late fifties and these stories take place then, and on through the late sixties, where I lost track of him. Much my loss.
The first story I would like to tell you is of Jack and his burning can. I remember it like this...

Jack lived with his wife and children in a modest Cape style home, built just after the war, on a road carved through what was an ancient apple and pear orchard. It was not your typical post war development, just a collection of similar houses, randomly scattered through a meager patchwork of roads, all of which were named after types of apples. Baldwin, Ohio, Wealthy, Jackson, Salisbury, Duchess. There were only about ten houses on Jack’s street, and the properties were all backed by about a two hundred foot deep stretch of woods, which fronted on the street behind. He took advantage of the lack of tenants in the woods behind his house, and cleared out a swath about thirty feet deep across the back of his property, sort of an extension of his back yard. This gave him a place to drive a pair of stakes into the ground so he could play horseshoes with anyone game enough to challenge him. He was pretty good at the game, and when it was on you would hear a pretty regular “clink” as he hit his usually consistent ringers. The task of clearing the property, though, left a good pile of brush and tree parts that needed to be disposed of, so he found an old fifty five gallon drum and set it up behind his garage in the clearing. It sat on a trio of cinder blocks and he had taken a pick axe and knocked a row of holes around the bottom for draft. He set to burning the refuse and had it reduced to a pile of ash over a weekend. Now most people would have been satisfied to leave it at that, but the burning can became something of interest to him. I guess he figured the can just couldn’t sit there, unused and rusting away, so he began to clean out the underbrush of the woods behind his clearing and burned that. The clearing of the woods took him several months to accomplish and when it was done, there were a series of paths through and around the old apple and pear trees, and the few giant maples and sweetgums that had sprouted and grew, unworried for years unknown. It was like a little park, where you could walk and enjoy the woods, eventually circling back to the clearing. His kids and their friends loved it and the woods would ring with yells and laughter of the games of tag and hide and seek. Sometimes there were great games of “Army” with plastic helmeted kids touting plastic rifles and Tommy guns to route the evil Nazis. The hard, unripe apples and pears made fantastic hand grenades, and many a battle was halted to attend to a good knock in the face or head with one of the missiles, and resumed when the tears had stopped and the effect of a good parental finger wagging wore off. It was also a great place to chase and catch fireflies on a summer’s evening, the bounty collected in old mason jars, which made fairy like lanterns to light the way on the paths. It also gave Jack a great pile of fodder for the can, and he spent many an evening after work burning it away. Now, this is where it got a little strange. The nightly burning had become a ritual, and when the brush pile ran out, Jack started looking for other offerings to burn.

It was early one Friday evening, in late July, when Jack appeared in the open doorway of my garage, while I was fiddling with something or other on the workbench.
“Hey, what are you doing?”, he asked.
“Nothing much, just horsing around with this piece of crap”, I replied, though for the life of me, I can’t remember just what particular piece of crap it was.
I paused a moment and looked him over. He was wearing his usual after work clothes; green work pants, a moth eaten tee shirt and old brown shoes, speckled with years of paint. His jet black hair was combed in his usual style, long in front and swept back over his head, a stray strand hanging in his face just to remind him he was at leisure now, not at work. In his mouth was the usual unfiltered butt, the smoke curling up around his head.
“You want to come down and have a cup of coffee?”, he asked. “I got some wood I want to burn”.
“Yeah, sure, I could use some joe. Let me get my hat.”
I retrieved my old red work hat, it’s own collection of paint samples rivaled Jack’s shoes, and we headed up the street to his place.
“You been clearing out more of the woods?”
“Nah, I just have some old two by fours to get rid of.”
“Been doing some building?”
“No, I found them in the garbage on the way home and threw them in the trunk.”
In the mind of a more rational person, this should have set off some sort of alarm, but I was thinking about having some coffee and a cigarette and how to get out of having my ass kicked at horseshoes, just in case the challenge was offered. It never really registered.
As we hoofed around the hedges at the end of his driveway, there was his ‘52 Chevy coupe, the load of lumber sticking out of the trunk. Jack untied the rope that kept the lid down and said,
“Take some of this crap around back while I go make some coffee”, and he turned heels and went in the back door. So, I grabbed an armful of the stuff and carted it around the back of the garage and let if fall next to the burning can. I was back at the car getting a second load when he came out of the door, percolator and two cups in hand. He breezed right by me as I gathered up the rest of the wood, and I followed him around back. I dumped the second load on top of the first one, and turned around to have a cup of steaming black coffee thrust at me. It was straight from the pot and any normal person would have spent a few minutes blowing over the top of the cup in a futile effort to cool it down, but not him. He was the only guy I knew that could draw a cup from the pot, drink it down and pour a second to chase it with. A mere mortal would be nursing the scalded roof of his mouth with his tongue, but not Jack. I sometimes wonder if he had any nerve endings in his mouth or if they had been long since disabled by the constant attack of boiling coffee and harsh cigarette smoke.
At my own peril, I took a quick sip and put the cup down on one of the cinder blocks sticking out from under the can. I started to pick up some wood and he said,
“Sit down and relax and drink your coffee. I’ll take care of this”.
I took my cup, sat on the ground against the back wall of the garage, shook a butt from my pack and lit it. The master took to work.
He bent over, stuck his head down into the can, withdrew, put his hands on his hips and looked at the pile of lumber.
“Needs some kindling. Be right back”.
He repaired to the garage and came back with an arm full of thin scrap wood, and a few pieces of newspaper, which he crumpled up and lowered into the can while bending almost completely over into it, and arranged it just so. Returning to light, he selected a few short pieces of wood from the supply of kindling and placed them into the can as well. Then he selected a few short hunks of lumber, put them into the can with the same attention, then paused, stepped back and said,
“That should do it”.
They were the last words he spoke that evening.
It was getting on to full dark by now, as he stood there, hands on his hips, looking at the can. He picked up his cup, took a good swig of coffee, then put the cup back down. He fished his cigarettes out of his shirt pocket, shook one out, placed it between his lips and withdrew the pack back to his pocket. He fished around his pants for his matches, found them, pulled one out and struck it. He lit his cigarette, took a puff and walked over to the can holding the lit match. Peering into the can, he dropped it strategically in, turned around and came over and stood beside where I sat, leaning on the wall. Well, I stared at the can for a while and seeing no action, started to get up to throw another match in and he stopped me with a wave of the back of his hand. I sat back down, staring at the can. After a minute I saw a faint, orange flicker in one of the draft holes. It got a little brighter, and a thin curl of smoke crawled up over the rim. This was followed by a little lick of flame, then another, and another, until a modest little fire had announced itself, and it grew to a decent blaze. Jack pushed himself away from the wall and walked back over to the can. He fed in a few bigger pieces of wood, to which the fire showed it’s appreciation by growing up over the top of the can. He stepped back a few feet and stood there, hands in pockets, watching the flames. Once in a while there would be a loud crackle, and sparks would spiral up into the night sky. He would tilt his head back to watch them, as they flew away, giving the last of the summer’s fireflies some competition, then lower his attention back to the flames.
I sat there for a while watching him and his fire, and decided I should get along home. I stood up and said,
“I’ll see you later, Jack, thanks for the joe”, to which he responded with a wave of his hand. I knew that was all the conversation I was going to get, so I walked up to his back porch, put down my empty cup and turned for one more look.
There he stood, hands in pockets, cigarette in his mouth, communing with his fire. I smiled, turned around and walked home.

I had thought at one time that Jack was turning into a minor league pyromaniac, as he continued to hawk for wood and spend the odd evening at the burning can. It became somewhat satisfying to smell the wood smoke wafting down the street on a summer’s night, I knew he was at his glory. I came to realize, though, that he was just finding his peace. Men find their peace in many ways. Some find it in their heart, some find it in their mind. Others find it in their gods. Many travel far to find their peace. Jack just had to go out back and find his in the burning can.



a pseudo haiku...

early morning
frozen pipe
hairdryer blowing
water comes
Zen water garden
in my kitchen sink.

1.22.2003

Well, hello there...
You just can't stay away, can you?
I was planning on a major rant tonight, but by the time I got home, I was somewhat calmed down. Actually, why bore you with my grief...?
Tonight begins a bold experiment, a link to a photo page. This was inspired by finding an old photograph while looking for something else of ultimatley lesser consequence. Thus, I present...
Scenes of Horror!
You might find this amusing.
Note the glassy eyes and strange hair. The wide eyed fellow with the pasty face, in the center of the photo, is my friend John. He is not only lit, he is also bewildered by how quickly the rest of us polished off his cherished bottle of ancient malt scotch that he brought back from a walking tour of the British Isles. Too bad, he should have known better. The quiet looking fellow on the right is Dave. He is a famous jazz guitarist now. The guy standing up in the back is Bob, one of many good friends I have, all, curiously, named Bob. He fell over shortly after this photo was taken.
I need some food now, so I bid you peace and good night.
(I swear I don't know what's up with the time stamp on this... it's really 8:20 PM)




1.21.2003

a short Stoley on the rocks and a short thought tonight.
I need to get one of those small pocket tape recorders that were so popular in the less digital days of our lives. When I'm driving to and from work, I think of the most damn interesting things that I would like to tell you, but by the time I get to sit down here, I can recollect only fleeting rememberences of formerly profound ideas... hence this;
Road signs. Not street signs, but road signs. Who ever that long forgotten soul is that decided that the signs announcing exits on the highways should be that particular shade of green knew what the hell he or she was doing. I'm thinking that person's time spent in the study of color psychology was time very well spent. When I'm driving on the freeways or interstates, there is nothing so reassuring as seeing those big green signs in the distance, coming up to you to announce just where you can go if you only just Exit 1 Mile Ahead..
I drive the same road every day to and from my job. I know, just by the lay of the land, where I am. I have seen those signs go by, twice a day, five, six and even seven days a week sometimes, and I never tire of reading those names. I've never been to most of those places. Maybe someday I will. But I never get tired of seeing those good old green signs. They are comfortable. They are easy to read. They invoke a sense of well being, especially when I get to "my" sign. It doesn't say much... "Jackson / Freehold"... but what it says to me is, "You're Amost Home". And that's not a bad sign to see.
I wish you peace, a good night and a green sign of your own.

1.19.2003

All my bitching about winter bit me in the ass at 4:30 this morning. Our furnace conked out. It started making a loud thumping sound and spewed oil fumes throughout the house. I dug out the space heaters, put one in the living room, one in the dining room and one in the pump room off the kitchen (see last night's post). I called the oil company and left a message for help, then went back to bed. They called me at 6:30 and said the guy would be out in about an hour and a half. By eight thirty, the thermometer part of the dining room thermostat read fifty degrees. The guy showed up around noon, replaced the filter and the nozzle and it fired up fine. Now it's back up to seventy and I'm ready to sit my ass down and watch six hours of football. I'm going to make fried pepper sandwiches with marinated red pepper strips and slices of fresh mozzeralla cheese on onion rolls for the game and open the bottle of champagne left over from New Year's and get stuffed and stiffed. I hope you have as much fun this afternoon as well.
peace.

1.18.2003

It's still cold.
I fired up the espresso machine and made myself a hazelnut latte. I'm writing, sipping and looking out the window to the back yard, where the full moon is illuminating what's left of the snow, casting long shadows of the bare trees on the frozen lawn. The woods in back of the house are a stark sight. In summer they are a cool, dark glen under the high canopy of leaves. Now the bare arms of the trees seem to be raised in a pleading way to the clear cold sky. You can almost hear their wailing plaint, bemoaning their sorry state. The woods suffer in the winter. The dead limbs that, somehow, held out through the summer storms, now succumb, and fall to the ground, or lay on top of the honeysuckle bushes that line the paths. The bark of the maples, smooth and shiny in the summer, now crack and curl, like old wallpaper and the few remaining leaves on the old oaks rattle in the wind, dry and hard. The only spots of color in the woods are the holly trees, which this year are a riot of berries. It is said that you can tell how bad the winter is going to be by how many berries the hollies put forth. I supposed I noticed how laden they were in the autumn, but put it out of mind. It doesn't change things to ignore them.
I took my old labrador, Sheba, for a walk through the back woods this morning at sunrise. It was so still and quiet. Despite the cold, there is a bit of wonder to be had walking through the woods in the winter morning. We followed some rabbit tracks in the snow till they dissapeared in the underbrush and we heard a bit of rustling in a squirrells nest high up in a gum tree. And the ever present crows. Life out of doors goes on, in spite of the weather.
Be well.
I bid you peace.

1.17.2003

It is so cold.
Our poor old house was built in 1841. We've lived here for almost twenty three years and have restored, renovated, rebuilt and remodeled it into a somewhat authentic period home. I realized I just said "home", not "house". It is a wonderful home. As a house, it leaves a bit to be desired. It exacts a penalty for what it is. With a very few exceptions, not seen from the street, all of the windows are original. Most of the glass in those windows is original. The glass is bubbly and rippled. The glass is various shades of clear and violet and green, depending the exposure to the sun, which does wonderful things to old glass. One of the panes in a dining room window has a THUMB PRINT IN THE GLASS... OUCH!!! I'm glad I wasn't around when that pane (PAIN!!) was made. It is odd, too, that same pane of glass has a distinct violet hue, brought about, no doubt, not by the sun, but by whatever oath was uttered over it by the unfortunate owner of that immortalized thumb. The windows are drafty. I have added inconspicuous weather stripping to seal them. It helps. But not much. The storm windows are mid century vintage. They succeed in keeping the driving rains and snow at bay, but the slightest zypher finds it's way in. When it is really windy, the shades and curtains slowly dance in and out. I don't need a weather vane to tell which way the wind is blowing, I just check out the window dressings...
But, it's better than it was the first year we moved in. We knew the house needed a lot of work. Mount Rushmore needed a lot of work, too. However, not having a budget of monumental proportions stymied us a bit in the beginning and deciding that having working kitchen appliances and bathroom fixtures one step above a gas station restroom were a priority, we put up with our homes unique relationship with the outside weather conditions. I think that over the years the house grew accustomed to functioning as part of the environment, rather than a shelter from it. Sort of an organic/symbiotic relationship, you could call it, in an odd moment of rationalization. The first winter we spent here was brutal. We scraped up the money for a new chimney and a cheap woodstove for the livingroom and we moved in there for the duration. We spent the winter sleeping on the floor in front of the stove, which had to be fed on an hourly basis to maintain a semblence of warmth. It was rough. We kept a piece of 1 x 2 lumber in the bathroom to break up the scrim of ice that would form on the edges of the toilet water overnight. All of the faucets in the house were kept running so the pipes wouldn't freeze. Once it was so cold the pump for the well, which is in a utility room off our kitchen, froze solid overnight. I had to thaw it with a hair dryer. When it was really cold, we would sit in front of the refrigerator, with the door open, because the air coming out of it was warmer than the air in the house. Well, not really, but we considered it.
I think this house, our home, has an idea that it should be a summer home. It wants to be shut up for the winter, devoid of any living occupants and keep company with the drafts and the chill, until the sun equalizes the temperature within and without. In summer it is less like a house then an extension of the outdoors. I rarely have the sensation of coming in or going out of the house in the summer, but in the winter the outside follows you in like a stray cat you shouldn't have fed. No matter where you go in the house this time of year, winter follows you around, doing figure eights around your legs, jumping up on your lap wherever you sit and putting it's cold nose on the back of your neck when least expected.
In the summer, this house looses count of the hours, but in winter it counts the seconds, tick by cold, harsh tick, counting the days until Old Sol comes around in earnest, arms spread wide and draws it, almost unwillingly, to his warm busom. I guess it all equals out, in the end. In the winter, the house is happy and in the summer we are happy. Spring and Autumn are a toss up.
I bid you peace... and warmth.

1.15.2003

Eine kleine nachtmusik...
by the time I got home last night, I had a headache of proportions that could only be described as Homeric... no, not Simpson, you dork, that Greek author chappy... I had to drive home with my left eye closed because oncoming headlights had an Inquisitional effect on my brain... my head really, really hurt.
I took four generic brand non-aspirin pain relievers, fed the cat and dog (who had already been fed by my then absent wife, you think the greedy little buggers would have 'fessed up...) and dropped onto the bed. That was around 7 PM. I slept until almost 2:30, when I was drilled awake by the sound of something large, heavy and glass and/or metal hitting the floor somewhere in the house. It even scared the crap out of the cat, who was sleeping on top of my legs. I crept downstairs expecting find something broken and after a thorough search, found nothing. Looked around outside, nothing there, either.
So, back to sleep until alarm time at 4:30. Got up, padded into the bathroom, then downstairs to the kitchen to make some coffee and feed the beasts when I saw it...
one of our very thick, heavy cut crystal drink glasses laying on the floor, under the edge of one of the cabinets. It apparently was in one of those little slots on the outside of the drainboard by the sink, where you stick glasses and such when it can't hold anymore on the inside, and the weight probably made it slide off the little tab, roll off the counter and hit the floor. Now, mind you, after it hit the floor, it rolled about four feet to end up where I found it...
not even so much as a chip out of the rim. This is one of the last two left of a set of eight that we bought years ago. They have, over time, succumbed to heavy handling, dishwasher load mis-management, one even broke when I dropped an ice cube in it. This one, however, showed, well, Homeric strength and resilience, much like my headache. It shall live to serve again. I think I shall celebrate it's stoic self and the death of my headache tonight by having a Stoley on the rocks in it. I will be gentle, however, with the ice cubes...
see you later.

1.13.2003

Time to share something....
check this out, it's fun!!!

Wow... sorry about that last post. Totally disjointed, not really making much sense. I guess what I was trying to say is that knowing there are so many special things cataloged in my mind, experiences that I have no way of verbalizing or writing down, is so very frustrating. I hope at the last moments of my life, I am able to fast forward through them all and selfishly enjoy them one last time.

Something to look forward to: I'm brushing up on my html skills and will transform this sortid affair into something at least visually interesting. I can't promise anything of the sort as far as the written content goes.

Be well.



1.12.2003

I've been carrying this around in my head since I thought of it on Saturday morning, but I haven't had a minute to write it down. I hope I remember it right...
I realized at some point, that I stopped planning for the rest of my life and have started planning for the end of my life. Maybe they are, in reality, the same thing, but it was a interesting revelation. In the fleeting moment of the thought, these things crossed my mind;
I have lived and still live an ordinary life. I have done nothing of note, which, I assure you, is not something that worry about. If nothing else, the steadiness of my life has been satisfying; I find it amazing, though, that it is impossible to describe all of the experiences I've had within my mind. What spurred this revelation was the way the early mornng winter light illuminated a portion of my bathroom wall. I've seen this part of the wall for the twenty two years I've lived in this house and it was astounding to realize that I prefer to see it when lit by summer sunlight, than by winter light. The hue of the wall in the duller, colder light of this time of year imparts a slightly grey cast to it, which, while not unpleasing, just does not look the same as the brighter and warmer light of the summer. The window in that area of the room is on the east side of the house and it is the morning light I'm talking about. Right now, the wall is not, to me, pleasing to look at, however, with the higher and more intense sun makes it so much more wonderful. Why? That's what I cannot explain. It just is.
I think that the ability to transfer that feeling, in what ever medium, that is what makes an artist so special. Whether they work in paints or pen or stone or song, or whatever, they have that special gift that allows them to let you know what they see in their mind. I feel a lesser person that I do not have that talent. I have seen so many things in the light and the dark that I can never pass on. I have felt sensations, heard notes so fleeting, yet they have so affected my being and my soul...and I am at a complete loss in passing those wonderful experiences on to my fellow beings.
I'm sorry. I would share them all with you, if I could.
Good night, peace and love to you all.

1.09.2003

I have always wanted to live in a little house in the middle of a vast wood. Grovel for my survival by daylight and read by the firelight at night. Wear hard, woven wool on my back, pants made of birch bark, eat my gruel out of a wooden bowl with a horn spoon... and generally act like a grouch when faced by other members of mankind. I want to be known as a grumbling rustic. You know what I mean, that crazy old man who lives in the forest, that never speaks to anyone and only comes into town when he wants to be bothered by the silliness of it all. It would beat playing at being apathetic. I mean, if you can't or won't or don't want to contend with it, wouldn't it be more fun to throw it all back in it's own face now and then, rather than pretend you don't care at all? I feel like I'm living in safe mode most of the time or that I'm wrapped in cotton.
I think I need an adventure. Any suggestions or offers? Let me know:
Ravensdread@aol.com
Nighty night.

1.08.2003

I long for the summer. Actually, I long for the summer twilight. The transition from day to night is so much smoother in the summer, when the light of day starts to dim and the violet hue of just before nightfall makes the green world seem that much greener and softer. It's a quiet time. Just before that short span where the world turns to dark blue, before the fall of dark.
I love to sit outside and wait for the little brown bats to come out to feed. One by one they appear, flitting and diving in silence, taking their sup. I remember one summer evening when I was in the pool with my youngest daughter Caitlin, just standing in the warm water and talking. We were at opposite sides of the pool when a bat swooped down right in front of my face, skimmed the water and flew up and over her head, taking a little drink, I suppose to wash down some dry, nasty bug.
I thought she would freak out, but after she realized what had happened, she was thrilled and we stood there for a long time waiting for it to happen again. It didn't. But that didn't change the moment. Actually, we probably wouldn't have hung out very long, but that chance happening made us stay and talk more. Not that we had anything enlightening to say to each other, we just talked. Sometimes we forget to spend some casual time with those we love. If I ever meet that bat again, I will thank him.
But summer is a long way off, in a lot of ways. Winter is a hard time. A shortened life cycle of waking, working, sleeping, with little else thrown in to break it up. The older I get, the worse the cabin fever gets. By the time I get home from work at night, I have to force myself to work out to get some exercise and break up the boredom. Thank the gods for good books, good music and good drink, they get me through. As a matter of fact, I think I'm going to go worship at their alter now. Then sleep, and then wake to being one more day closer to summer.
I wish you peace and love.
greg

1.07.2003

I was going to write this last night, after I got done undecorating the Christmas tree, but offer my apologies and explanation as follows.
Ya know, they just don't grow them like they used to. I cut this one down myself and kept it constantly watered and fed the entire time it was up (16 days...) but it turned itself into the stuff that home insurance companies dread, an indoor tinder pile, draped with electric cords and lights. I spent two hours last night in strange ritual... remove some decorations to the sound of dry needles falling, then picking same out of my flesh, then having a sip of a Stoley Martini... repeat endlessly for two hours and by ten pm, I had this:
1 large round metal container full of antique Christmas decorations, destined for the attic;
4,565 (by actual count...) minute, sappy puncture wounds in hands, arms and face;
a 5' diameter ring of pine needles on the living room carpet;
1 almost naked Christmas tree skeleton;
1 half empty bottle of 80 proof Stoley;
1 warm and fuzzy glow.
I deposited the Halloween Christmas Nightmare Skeleton Tree Beast outside in one fast move, set to work with broom, dustpan and vacuum and when it was all over and done with, the afore mentioned celebrated Empty Corner was back.
I can only do things like this when I'm alone, as they turn into something to look back on and laugh about. If anyone else was home with me, I would have used that as an excuse to bitch and moan and would have missed all the fun... especially the martini part... and the cat rolling the the pile of pine needles (GREEN MARTIAN PORCUPINE CAT MONSTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!).
Ah, well, such is the real stuff of life.
have to run, be well.



1.05.2003

Happy 12th Night to all.
It's snowing in New Jersey. A fitting scene for this special night. After tonight, the festive lights and the banners of garland come down. I will take down the Christmas tree, putting up the empty corner to celebrate the rest of the year...
The melancholy of the winter looms ahead. Grey days, black nights. Introspection weighs heavy on the soul, tempered with the promise of better times to come.
Throw peace into the face of the coming times, believe in what you need to, just to get by.
Hold someone's hand. Tell the truth. Enjoy a bottle of wine with someone you love.
Be well.

1.04.2003

it's ridiculous. have you ever spent time thinking about whether or not someone is thinking about you?
how empty a day can seem.
i wasted an entire day today doing nothing of consequence... well, i read tony pierce today, so that counts. and looked at all of the pictures on mad pony...
so it wasn't a total wash...